Scripture: Read James 1:19 “Dear friends, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Your anger can never make things right in God’s sight”.
Thought: This weekend the check engine light came on in our car. I assumed big bucks to get it repaired, my husband concluded that we only had one vehicle and couldn’t afford to release the car for repair until we found another vehicle to use. Almost immediately we both turned into monsters instead of realizing that we actually had the same goal; the car needed to be fixed! Our communication involved sending and receiving a message of resolution but we failed to evaluate (listen) and discuss (speak) the options. Our choice of communication was not effective and grew into an unsafe zone of fear and anger, creating us both to be defensive. After the storm calmed down, we were able to stand with each other and forgive whatever grievance we had against one another. Our desiring virtues to be humble, to be kind, to be patient, to put on love, connected our situation in perfect unity. We prayed and asked God for forgiveness while sinning in our fear and anger, then asked Him to help us find an affordable mechanic. In deed, we asked God for a great thing and He delivered.
Action: Is your marriage a safe haven? Can you and your spouse be yourselves? Are you free to share and express your dreams, concerns, jokes, disappointment or anything else that makes you who you are? Or do you hide and keep silent for fear of anger, judgment or criticism? Talk about your reactions when the two of you had a disagreement. How did it make you feel and how did it effect the situation? If the two of you connected in communication, how did the situation place you in a safe zone?
Prayer: Lord, I so often jump to a conclusion when I am afraid. My fear can turn to anger and my anger turns to defense. Lord, you tell me to be quick to listen and slow to speak. I ask you now Father, help me seek to be humble and not to pass judgment, to knock and search for your peace so my conversations with my spouse are right in your sight and together we are safe in perfect harmony when making decisions.