Scripture: “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. This great mystery is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5: 31-33
Thought: A few years ago on a radio talk show, I heard a pastor ask a young engaged couple what the definition of marriage was to them. I wondered if they could give a clear and concise response? The couple replied with the traditional wedding pledge, “do you take ________ to be your wedded husband/wife, to live together in marriage? Do you promise to love, comfort, honor and keep him/her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and forsaking all others, be faithful only to each other, for as long as we both shall live?” It sounded to me, like they knew what they were committing to. I of course, thought of the wedding vows I took in the holy sacrament of matrimony. I made a promise to George; there would be no holding back of anything. My marriage was a pledge of mutual fidelity; it is a partnership of mutual submission with Jesus Christ in the center. Through the good times and bad I would stand beside George in support. Together with God in the center of our marriage, we would work things out.
Sure, all of us experience events which have the potential to reshape us as individuals or as couples. Some of these possible events are called disappointment, crises or tragedies. There are certain key words that are important to discuss as a couple. We must leave our parents authority and not cling to their views. We must cleave to our spouse, united as one and start our own lives together as just the two of us were created to be one in unity. As we experience together the events that hurt, we will learn to weave a life together as a family with Christ in the center.
Action: Consider what your definition would be. What does commitment mean to you? What is a pledge? What does mutual submission mean to you? How can marriage free you instead of restrict you? Has your marriage freed you to this point? What has happened in the life time of your marriage that God has used to reshape you? Enjoy your discussion today.
Prayer: Lord, apart from you I desire nothing else than to have my marriage Re-Centered in Your Love. I ask for you to provide time with George and I tonight to reflect and discuss our love, our pledge, our growth during marriage, and reflect on the mutual submission that we made through the bad times. May we gain greater direction concerning our marriage through Your process and grow with love and respect to one another. In Jesus Name, Amen.