Scripture: Read 1 Peter 3:7 “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life”.
Thought: When having dinner with my son and daughter-in-law this weekend, my husband and I were discussing our different love languages. Amber, my daughter-in-law, made a statement that brought a proud, loving tear to my heart; “I don’t need flowers or jewelry. My husband filled my gas tank for me and that makes me feel so loved.” It was my son’s act of service that told his wife, he loves her.
God calls husbands to oversee their homes and this includes protecting their wives from emotional and physical burnout. Women are wired to nurture and give of themselves, but a random act of kindness from the man she loves speaks volumes to her. Your wife is probably pretty good at juggling a million things at once, but when she gets overwhelmed, it’s nice to have a little help; even if she doesn’t admit or realize she needs the rest. It’s easy to get focused on work, parenting, and various forms of entertainment, and forget about your wife’s needs. Does she look frazzled or even frantic at times? Is she less patient or snapping at you for small things? Try serving your wife; this reflects God’s love when you shoulder burdens with her. It’s not demeaning or beneath you, it’s bringing God glory, and creating a closer bond with your spouse.
You know her better than anyone knows her, so stay on your toes and keep her on your radar. If she runs herself ragged nonstop, how will she have anything left to offer anyone else? If she seems cold and uninterested towards you, it could be exhaustion. Lend a helping hand, or start a hot bubble bath for just “her alone time”.
Action: Step back and ask yourself how you can serve your wife, given the unique talents and strengths God gave you. Are you happy to clean up after dinner? Can you help kids with math homework? Can you take over the bedtime routine? Then go brush some little teeth. Help her, help you. Shower her with the type of love that will spill over to you, your children, and others in your lives. Be intentional about protecting her well-being and you will reap great rewards.
Prayer: Father, forgive me for the attitude I carried home tonight to my family. Help me to leave work at work. I am grateful for having a loving home, to come and rest. And for a wife that serves you out of love. Open my eyes to see You. Help me to see Your reflection in our home. Guide my heart to let go of the day and to serve you the way my wife serves me. Show me your way and strengthen me to treat her with understanding. Lord, in everything I give you thanks. Amen