Sex in Marriage

Scripture: “Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. Read more

Always Choose Love

Scripture: “Give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another in marriage.” Hebrews 13:4 Read more

Marriage Transformation

Scripture: “For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man and of birds and four-footed animals and crawling creatures.” Romans 1:21-23
Thought: After seventeen years of marriage, Beth had learned to settle for second place in her marriage. Between careers, children, social engagements and in-law demands, Rod and Beth often neglect their relationship. She was too exhausted to take an interest in her health and appearance like she had for the first ten years. Rod became a workaholic and this affair with his job created a crisis in their marriage. The two eventually became disengaged, and their fantasy of marriage dissolved to a mediocre life growing further apart through the years. Because of their value system and belief in God, Rod and Beth resigned to hanging in with an increasingly lifeless marriage. This was not a simple matter for them or their children. The very fact that their ideas about love were based on assumptions meant that they never thought through true love in the first place; they just accepted the distance and stereotyped their marriage as many of their friends, “they just didn’t have magic in their love any longer because of life changes.” Rod and Beth’s belief system reflected their reality in their marriage. Rod and Beth did not glorify their marriage as God designed; instead they entered into a vow of fantasy and did not have grateful attitudes for the two hearts He joined together. In Romans 1: 21 – The heathens neither thanked God for His benefits, nor glorified Him for His divine perfection. But they became useless; like the idols Rod and Beth worshiped their, careers, children, social engagements and in-law demands. For the true God, they substituted other idols. Is your marriage oriented vertically with God relationship at the head or are your priorities horizontal in a world’s value system?
Action: A family that prays together stays together. Bring back the “AWE” in your marriage, show affection, be warm and encourage one another. Allow God to transform your marriage union into a connection of love, respect, romance, and spiritual oneness. Nurture your spiritual growth by praying for your spouse and your relationship daily, engage in bible studies together, flirt and laugh with one another. Think about renewing your marriage vows. Vow renewal ceremonies are often more meaningful than the wedding. Renewing your vows will move you toward spiritual intimacy and transform your marriage.
Prayer: Father, I am thankful for the husband/wife you’ve given me. I’ve allowed my life to evolve around the worldly system becoming ungodly to you and my spouse. Help me to mirror your love in my heart with affection, warmth and encouragement. My desire is to have a second chance to renew our marriage vows with the understanding of your true love.

Keys4-Unity Put God First

Scripture: “Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit, and there are varieties of ministries, but the same Lord. There are varieties of results, but it is the same God who produces all the results in everyone. To each person has been given the ability to manifest the Spirit for the common good.” (ISV) 1 Corinthians 12:4-7

Thought: Recently, I assisted at a conference for the unity of marriages. During this time I exerted a lot of energy and my husband was concerned that my sleepless days would bear on my health. I tried in my best effort to explain that I was preparing a banquet for Jesus and He deserved my very best. God provided me with the strength of energy, other members of the body, and the ability to get His job done. Now, there was a time I thought God passed me up when He was passing out talents. I wanted to be like others that I admired and saw that they were blessed with a spiritual gift. But now I can see that I wouldn’t want to have the burden of continually using that particular gift faithfully. However, God did bless me with the gifted ability to serve others. Jesus tells us in Matthew 25:29, “If you use wisely what you have, you will be given more.” The Bible makes it clear that what God has given to each of us, if used faithfully, will accomplish great things. God takes joy in using the gifts the world may see as my inability to lack a certain talent, but He purposely uses my gift to accomplish His plan.

Action: What is keeping you from using your talented gift to serve in the unity of Christ? Is it your own lack of discipline or circumstances beyond your control? If it is truly circumstances beyond your control, then take comfort in the fact that God still loves you and perhaps the suffering that is keeping you from reaching out in physical service, is a blessing and God has given you a gift of praying for others. Unity creates a more beautiful worship experience. Set your mind on discovering the gifts and abilities that God specifically had in mind when He created you.

Prayer: Lord, I ask not what You can do for me, but what can I do for You? The purpose of my life is not about me, it’s about serving You for Your Kingdom to come on earth as it is in heaven. Show me this day Father, Your gift, Your strength and my ability to serve You in unity of the Holy Spirit. Amen.