Praying Women

Scripture: “He gives power to those who are tired and worn out; he offers strength to the weak.” Isaiah 40:29
Thought: “Lord, I can’t do it any more!” I have times during my marriage when I’m ready to throw in the towel. I’m afraid my husband is detaching from God. His life is filled with stress as he works for a company who mentally and physically abuses him and he feels stuck, in addition to carrying the full financial burden for our family. I beg, argue, manipulate, cry, and flat out tell him, he should spend more time praying and asking God for direction, especially during his stress. I tried placing his Bible on top of the side table next to him. I would leave devotionals and inspirational books where he would sit as a hint to seek God’s word. I tried everything I could think of to get him to change his attitude. I played mother, counselor, spiritual advisor and even Holy Spirit, until I was worn out from trying to control his state of affair. I became desperate and fed up. One evening, I knelt down, with tears flowing down my face, “God, he is your child, I have no ownership over him. I surrender my manipulation and his life to you because I can’t do it any more. At that moment, I felt the burden of my husband’s relationship with God release from my controlling hold. This was the turning point in our marriage and I learned that if he comes home short tempered, disinterested, miserable, or lethargic, I could take the situation to the Lord in prayer. Wow, what a relief it is!
Action: Do you pray daily for your spouse? Are you frustrated with your marriage connection? Take it to the Lord in prayer or ask a close friend to pray with you when you can’t think straight and need clarity and a vision of unity. We need to be accountable for ourselves.
Prayer: Lord, forgive me for complaining about my marriage and thinking my spouse needs to change. Change Me Lord, life is not about my comfort or getting my way, it’s about you and following your way.

Dread and Anxiety

Scripture: Read 1 Corinthians 4: 3-5 “…My conscience is clear, but that isn’t what matters. It is the Lord Himself who will examine me and decide”.
Thought: There is no other way to describe the feeling of sitting in a court room waiting for the verdict from the judge or jury. It brings high anxiety and dread. Have you ever had to go face an authority figure and feel like you were on trial? It may not have been in an actual court room, but at sometime in your life, you probably felt you were on trial and had to defend yourself. It could have been before your parents, employer, teacher, friend, spouse or even yourself. Some people feel they are on trial every day of their lives. They have someone who criticizes, accuses or condemns them each day. This is not very pleasant but it happens. When it does, it seems that others have control over you. It’s painful and you’re not sure how to respond to the unwarranted and unjustified criticism. If we continue to experience criticism throughout our lives, we continue to receive bad news with anxiety and fear. BUT, the good news is that Jesus brought down the gravel and pronounced us justified. We have been acquitted, vindicated, and declared righteous. We were guilty, but Jesus stepped out from behind the bench, took out his wallet and paid the fine. His death brought us life and we are no longer orphans wondering with fear and guilt for love and acceptance.
Action: How do you react to your spouse when they offend you? Do you hold them accountable for days, weeks, months, years? Your Father God can help wipe away the painful memory of hurt and anger. Then you can wipe clean the accusations. Justification makes marriage and life so much better than the alternatives of dread, anxiety and guilt.
Prayer: Lord, I want to learn to re-center in your arms. Lord, apart from you l face no trial. My arms stretch out for your acceptance and I thank you for paying my debt in the court room. Please help me to pay forward your love and not accuse others.

Lean Together in 2015

Scripture: Psalm 9:9 -11 “Those who know your name trust in you, for you, O Lord, have never abandoned anyone who searches for you”.
Thought: About 10 years ago, I stopped making “New Year Resolutions” because they never worked for me and never lasted past January, that’s if I was good. So instead, I started asking God to teach me about His character; the Fruit of His Spirit. (1 Corinthians 13) My New Year resolution was to be more Christ minded. I would take one word that describes Jesus and ask God to give me strength to PUT HIM FIRST. Last year I asked my Father God to show me what His Love really is. Prior to this prayer, I had so many expectations and disappointments when I tried unconditional love on my own, but when I trusted God to show me His love, I was putting Him First daily. This year my resolution prayer is for me to learn how to love God unconditionally. He showed me His love first and now I want to learn to love Him like He loves me. Following Christ is not easy; in fact this prayer is scary to me but I hold onto God’s promise that he will not abandon me. I relate this kind of love, giving and receiving to the only I kind of love I have humanly learned, and this is with my husband. I have no fear of sharing my failures with him. We lean together as we committed in our wedding vows. We lean together with Our Heavenly Father to take over and show of His way to the truth and life; both personally and in our marriage.
Action: A promise to a new beginning. God promises to redeem all events of our lives for our good if we look to Him. Romans 8:28. Love covers it all. The daily stresses on marriages, the most difficult situations and decisions. Put God First and make Him the source of your love. Hand in hand you can face the best and the worst that life offers. Lean together with your spouse in 2015 and watch the transformation God is going to do in fulfillment of His promise to you.
Prayer: Lord, it’s not about me. I pray that you will guard me against temptation and situations that can kill my marriage. Please give me courage and strength to lean together with you in 2015. Remind me to Put You First in every morning.